Endgame

Apr. 21st, 2011 10:51 pm
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My brother-in-law Zach will be headed for hospice as soon as a bed opens up for him. As bad as that is, it could have been worse. What we all feared most was that the new tumor in his heart would take him while he was at home, and his kids would be the ones to find him. Whatever comes next won't be good, but at least it won't be that. Amazing what you can find to be grateful for when things really suck.

He's often disoriented now, sometimes hallucinating. His doctors think it'll be less than a week. It could be any minute. His closest kin are on their way--may they get there in time. He has finally accepted that he needs to tell my sister what his wishes are for funeral arrangements--may they get through that process with grace. May the best possible thing happen, whatever it may be.

(Oh, fuck cancer.)

He's asked for prayers from all willing parties. This is probably the last time.

Date: 2011-04-22 03:05 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile] queenoftheskies.livejournal.com
I'm so very sorry. ::sending prayers::

Date: 2011-04-22 03:06 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile] evilbunny.livejournal.com
I am *so* sorry. So very sorry. Please know that Zach and all of his family are in my thoughts. I will continuing hoping for the best possible scenario for him.

Date: 2011-04-22 03:08 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile] jamesenge.livejournal.com
Fuck cancer. Absolutely. (Prayers arriving under separate cover.)

Date: 2011-04-22 03:08 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile] jeneralist.livejournal.com
We love you, Zachary, oh yes we do...

{{{Zach}}}

{{{Zach's family}}}

And yeah, fuck cancer.

Date: 2011-04-22 03:25 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile] ingridsummers.livejournal.com
I hold him and you in my heart and prayers.

Date: 2011-04-22 04:02 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile] tyellas.livejournal.com
Sending prayers and wishes for the next part to be an easing....

Date: 2011-04-22 04:50 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile] rednikki.livejournal.com
I'm so sorry. I am so, so sorry for you and your sister and their children and everyone. Fuck cancer.

Date: 2011-04-22 05:23 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile] jasminewind.livejournal.com
So many of us have walked along side your family's painful path through your words here. Thank you for allowing us to share in the joy as Zach fought valiantly while he was busting the mold on his cancer prognosis, as he endured therapies and surgeries and unexpected news, good and bad. Thank you for letting us know what is happening now so we can turn our thoughts & energies their way.

My heard aches for a man I don't know, his wife whom I have only met briefly (at your baby shower, she was there, right?) and their children and all who love them (that includes you, btw)

I continue to hold Zach in my heart, and hope and pray for the very best that can possibly come to him.

I'm so so sorry.

Date: 2011-04-22 05:32 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile] onyxtwilight.livejournal.com
Fuck cancer, indeed.

*sigh*

May there be peace, and ease, and rest.

"For a word to be spoken, there must be silence. Before, and after." -- Ursula K. LeGuin, A Wizard of Earthsea

Date: 2011-04-22 07:14 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile] jmward14.livejournal.com
Sending prayers and good thoughts to Zach, his family and you. I'm so sorry {{{Sarah}}}. Yeah, fuck cancer.

Date: 2011-04-22 10:51 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile] sligoe.livejournal.com
What onyxtwilight said. Twice.

Date: 2011-04-22 01:17 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] showingup.livejournal.com
Oh, hell. This must be horrible for all of you. You are all in our thoughts and prayers. We both send love.

Date: 2011-04-22 02:11 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] spindlewand.livejournal.com
What jasminewind said. (except, of course, that I have never had the pleasure of meeting any of you.)

Prayers sent, and more will follow: especially on this day which is Holy for me I pray for him, and for all of you.

Date: 2011-04-22 02:46 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] laradionne.livejournal.com
Oh Sweetie...

Many prayers for an easy transition. Many prayers for a peaceful passing. Many prayers for all of you who will be left behind in all of the various states of left-behind-ness that cancer brings in its wake...

Hugs and prayers for gentleness to all of you.

Date: 2011-04-22 03:49 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] catpaw67.livejournal.com
My thoughts and prayers are with you and yours. Fuck cancer.

Date: 2011-04-22 05:31 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] thunderpigeon.livejournal.com
So sorry. I know he survived beyond all of the early projections, but I know that doesn't always make it any easier now. Fuck cancer. And a wish of peace to you, to Zach, and to all of his family and friends.

Date: 2011-04-23 03:24 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile] sacredmime.livejournal.com
My prayers for Zach, for you and for your family during this difficult time. You're right--it is amazing what we can find to be grateful for--and though it might not seem so now, it is a gift to be able to say goodbye and let our loved ones go knowing that they are loved.

Date: 2011-04-23 11:03 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] garybart.livejournal.com
Oh, Sarah, I'm sorry. So many words for sorrow but none that are adequate. Thinking of you and Zach. I've never met him but I feel like I have through your writings about his struggle.

Date: 2011-04-28 03:54 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile] violet-moon25.livejournal.com
I'm so sorry. Cancer sucks! I hope it goes as well as it can from here. I'm sending love and support to you all, especially your nieces. If there is anything I can do, you know were to reach me.
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