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And now that this thing has happened that we've spent the past two years anticipating, the universe seems quietly unreal.

The new normal is coming. There will be many good things about it, once it arrives. There had better be, because people I love will have to live in it.

I take deep breaths. I try not to think too hard about what his mother must be going through when I look at my sons. I focus on mundane details. When there is a date set for the funeral, I will need to arrange for cat-sitting on short notice.

Gareth is of an age to ask why, about everything, repeatedly, all day. Fortunately, he's easy to side-track. I don't know why people die, but I know why iris flowers grow better from corms than from cuttings. It'll make for an interesting funeral experience. I have learned that a funerary gathering benefits immensely from having babies in attendance. We'll see whether pre-schoolers have as salutary an effect.

Date: 2011-05-04 02:05 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile] csecooney.livejournal.com
That your every deep breath fills with you calm and clarity. For what they're worth: my condolences. For the rest, I hope the new normal is full not only of good things but great things too. Nothing wasted.

Date: 2011-05-04 02:27 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile] evilbunny.livejournal.com
You're all in my thoughts. I wish I could be of more help.

Date: 2011-05-04 02:48 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile] catpaw67.livejournal.com
There's a wonderful book called Always and Forever by Alan Durant that R found helpful in understanding death somewhat. I recommend it.

Date: 2011-05-04 03:36 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile] laradionne.livejournal.com
Much love, many hugs, and some virtual handkerchiefs sent your way.

Date: 2011-05-04 03:38 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile] sabrinamari.livejournal.com
My friend, I will stop over and care for your cats and do whatever else I can to help you through this. I love you all, an want to help in whatever way I can.

Date: 2011-05-04 03:51 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile] gwisteria.livejournal.com
i was just going to also reccommend Always and forever even tho luci was 11 when her bio dad died that book was her refuge she colored and had me read to her again and again, its simplicity made her feel better

Date: 2011-05-04 03:55 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile] rednikki.livejournal.com
I"m so sorry.

Date: 2011-05-04 04:05 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile] queenoftheskies.livejournal.com
I'm very sorry he's gone, but I hope he's at peace.

Date: 2011-05-04 04:24 am (UTC)
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From: [identity profile] newroticgirl.livejournal.com
I'm so sorry.

Date: 2011-05-04 04:26 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile] jmward14.livejournal.com
I'm so sorry. You're all in my thoughts.

Date: 2011-05-04 04:48 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile] temporus.livejournal.com
So sorry for the loss you and your family are going through.

Date: 2011-05-04 05:02 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile] jasminewind.livejournal.com
My thoughts are with you all. Much love.

Date: 2011-05-04 05:46 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile] jamesenge.livejournal.com
Thinking of you and yours. Hoping for some kind of healing and consolation.

Date: 2011-05-04 06:14 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile] kistha.livejournal.com
I'm so sorry, and I know from experience that toddlers can be very good to lighten the load at a funeral.

You are all in my heart, and I am so sorry for you all. Death sucks.

Date: 2011-05-04 06:44 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile] showingup.livejournal.com
I'm glad he had the best family, medical care, and hospice care possible. I'm glad he touched your life so deeply, and through you touched so many people who'd never met him, and yet through you came to really care about him. I'm glad Pru has you for a sister, and the kids have you for their aunt.

I know there's nothing to be said or done to heal this up any faster or easier. If there is anything we can do, let us know.

Both of us send much love and are keeping you all in our thoughts and prayers.



Date: 2011-05-04 07:16 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile] evaelisabeth.livejournal.com
I'm so sorry.

Date: 2011-05-04 09:57 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile] sligoe.livejournal.com
Loving thoughts are with all of you. I wish I were closer so I could do more.

Date: 2011-05-04 11:54 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile] spindlewand.livejournal.com
I am so sorry.

Date: 2011-05-04 01:37 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] thunderpigeon.livejournal.com
So sorry to hear.

When Andrew asked why people die, I said it was so that more people could be born without overcrowding the world.

Date: 2011-05-04 08:02 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] slackerstalker.livejournal.com
I'm so sorry for your family's loss. I only met Prue once or twice but I'm wishing her strength. *hugs* (though virtual hugs feel terribly inadequate)

Date: 2011-05-04 08:38 pm (UTC)
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From: [personal profile] citabria
I am so very, very sorry for your loss.

Date: 2011-05-08 02:45 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] onyxtwilight.livejournal.com
I'm a week behind, unfortunately. Sorry to hear this. You're all in my thoughts.

Date: 2011-05-16 04:30 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile] violet-moon25.livejournal.com
I'm rather behind as well. Hugs and sympathy to you, your sister and nieces. Babies at funeral are doable but squirmy toddlers or preschoolers can be tricky. But your kids may be less squirmy than mine (or at least one of them).
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