The End

[dr_pretentious]

For a while, I was irked at Kay for the timing of her cancer, as if it were something she had chosen. After all, I was having a baby, right? When Dan's sister had a kid, Kay offered lots of free babysitting, and homemade applesauce. Homemade applesauce, for pete's sake! And now that it was my turn to reproduce, instead of helping Dan and me cope, she was becoming someone we needed to worry for. I was angry on Dan's behalf, too, that his pleasure in being a new father was so muted by the expectation of loss. Being miffed at Kay was so much easier than acknowledging to myself how heartsick I was that she was going to leave us all, and far, far too soon.

The moment the pneumonia hit, that bit of self-distraction fell away. Suddenly it seemed that Gareth had been born at exactly the right time. He could offer instant comfort to the whole family, and Dan especially, without having to share in our sorrow. I wouldn't trade the look on Kay's face when I brought her grandson into her hospital room on Saturday for all the homemade applesauce in the world.

On Wednesday evening, Dan's family honored her wishes and took off her oxygen mask. Within the hour, it was all over.

It now seems as impossible that she should be gone as on Monday it seemed impossible that she might live out the week. I can hear her voice so perfectly saying...not anything important, exactly...just the verbal tics that were particularly hers.

Comments

[kistha.livejournal.com]

Love to you and Dan's family.

You are in our thoughts.

[onyxtwilight.livejournal.com]

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[jasminewind.livejournal.com]

Love to you and Dan and Gareth.

{{LOVE}}

My sympathies

[doverider.livejournal.com]

heartfelt sympathies and condolences to you both.
Your positive perspective is truly lovely.

[thecrimsony.livejournal.com]

Love and hugs to your entire family.

[sabrinamari.livejournal.com]

Sweet peas, we love you. Please tell us if we can do anything to ease your pain a little bit.

[joyfulorb.livejournal.com]

My deepest sympathies go out to you and all your family. I send hugs.

[purpledice.livejournal.com]

Condolences and love from both of us. Lots.

[annathepiper]

Oh man. Condolences to you and your family. *snugs*

[happy-dr-friend.livejournal.com]

I'm sorry. Love to you, Gareth, and Dan.

[crepuscular.livejournal.com]

so sorry. much love to you and to dan.

[rednikki.livejournal.com]

I'm so sorry. I'm thinking of you both. Please tell Dan...well, tell him I'm so sorry. It is so hard to lose a parent.

[vgnwtch.livejournal.com]

If ever you and/or Dan need someone to talk to, you know where I am.

I send much love.

[ingridsummers.livejournal.com]

I'm so sorry. No matter how much we talk about the cycles of life and death, death is still jarring. I'm glad that you have the reminder of life to help you through it.

Hugs!

[dragonflycai.livejournal.com]

{{{ Love and hugs }}}

[harlequinaide.livejournal.com]

*leaves a pebble*

[amheriksha.livejournal.com]

*hugs*

[sligoe.livejournal.com]

I am so sorry to hear of your loss. Much love to Dan, to you, and to Gareth. If there is anything I cna do to help, please don't hesitate to let me know.

[violet-moon25.livejournal.com]

Love, hugs and sympathy to all of you. Somehow that doesn't seem like enough in the face of a big loss...I also wish you warm fuzzy healing energy and an abundant supply of applesauce (homemade if possible). If there is anything we can do we are here for you. (I'm a good listener and I stay up late.) We also went through the whole family funeral this week for my great uncle. We weren't close to him and it was expected (he was 85 an had cancer) but still it will not be easy on those closest to him. I hope the love and support from all the family and friends still with you will help.